A Confluence, Assumptions, Crossroad, and One
Solution for Teen Girls on Social Media
"But here is the strangest paradox of Time that it can only be managed in a very small-time frame called TODAY. And TODAY can sometimes be sparked by a tinier matter of CHOICE." Teen Girl Faces Time in the Sand
In Geology, a younger rock formation isolated among older rocks is called an outlier. So, if an older person stands up among younger people to share wise experience is she also an outlier because she cares?
Can we set the table with some common assumptions?
- The internet revolution is here to stay and grow.
- Social media will be the communication channel for better or for worse.
- Almost all levels of mainstream culture are digitally disrupted with necessary adaptive changes
- Teen culture is the more vulnerable because of adolescent brains still in formation to build a rationale, deductive frontal cortex.
Here’s my Big Picture view based on observations and continuous research.
Teenagers, especially teen girls, are at a crossroad with 4 different settings, story lines or solutions…
One: Everything is fine…they will grow out of teenage angst on social media…maturity is a step away at 20 years as independent, competent adults.
Two: There are serious problems with internet exploitation of teen girls via various platforms, body images, psychologists’ reports re depression, etc.
Three: Much advice about tactical control tips for parents, self-esteem worksheets, meditation practice, new curriculum objectives re sexting, etc.
Four: Change internal MINDSET that my OFFLINE TIME in my space is more important than ONLINE TIME in others' virtual reality.
New assumption: What is the best way to overcoming conditioned reflexes and relearning new mindsets?
Best way to break a habit is to find reasons to reset new behaviors…
Best way to undo conditioning is to recondition with a new mindset…
New theory: show teenagers there is a reality far more important and more valuable than social media gossip, games, being influenced, liking and looking for approval from strangers with physical codes.
HOW? Consider the one commodity that all teen girls have in common ... namely TIME and how they spend it.
Therefore, how can time be understood better, described and managed, using symbols when necessary?
New idea: Read a story based on the theme of time within a broad overview. A teen girl narrates her story of making some bad choices about Selfies and drugs pointing to a symbol of the Social Media Circus impacting an adolescent brain in a dream. She keeps asking, “Is it my fault?” Her grannie helps to explain the transition of time as experiences with symbols in the sand and the power of choice made in reference to a timeline with 3 essential questions. Redemption follows with new mindset to believe in Self not Selfie.
Note the fragility of life and destiny with no choice is drawn from a damselfly.
Then practice a few lesson plans to help reinforce some basic timely ideas within context.
EXAMPLES: get to know areas of the brain, draw powerful neuron connections, word webs beyond self, predict rites of passage, new calendar of time based on experiences, practice making smart choices, note difference between choice and habit, connect morals to self-esteem with actions, compare time charts (offline vs online) and celebrate MY TIME like a Mandela of vision ... no cellphones allowed. There is life beyond the small screen face.
The story takes two hours to read. The exercises may take longer. But, at least, perhaps, a SEED may be planted that holding a timeline in your hand is your responsibility. Perhaps, a couple pages in the minds of teen girls may turn to being a special Self not a media Selfie.
Could this be a better antidote than taking the cellphone away or writing a daily journal when their future adulthood may be on the line? Is this a better way to relate to morality in our culture when some people think amorality is the new normal?
As a citizen of the world and a teacher who deeply respects education and always wants to teach the Big Picture, the total unit, I worry about other long-term options. The truth is we are in the middle of an unprecedented confluence, “a tide in the affairs of teenagers” where the “current we take” will either “serve or lose our ventures.” …adapted William Shakespeare. I hope we are not too late in turning the tide.
I sometimes wonder if our society may be losing a generation of young women to the siren calls of a Social Media Clown Face. Teen girls probably cannot write a story like this when their train is just leaving the station on routes of their choosing where one wrong mistake can derail a lifetime.
Finally, mass media has created this situation and mass media can help to reduce some of the undesirable effects. Imagine how a good film producer can produce a wonderful short movie with TIME as a radial center to respect the rites of passage for young women.
Questions and comments are always important. Podcast shows are important to debate. What are other options? Has our culture crossed the line or not? Has it done enough to protect our amazing teen girls?
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Excerpt: "It is starting to make sense. My Experience of Life will not be planted by a Celtie Selfie in a social media circus. The circus is in town, but I don't have to go to every show."
Teen Girl Faces Time in the Sand - a Timely Tale of Social Media Struggles, Regrets and Survival with Superpower Tool